You have done a bit of soul-searching, done the time apart thing, dated some other women, and you’ve come to your senses: Things will not get any better than this. You made a huge mistake letting her go. And now, you want her back.
It is never too late to rekindle the love with your ex – but don’t rush and make any mediocre moves. You will need to do this right, and that means engaging an abundance of caution and confidence than ever.
Getting your ex-girl back is much harder than catching the eye of a new girl, but if you really want to reignite that old flame, there are a few things you can do to increase your chances.
Give her some space. Don’t start knocking on her door or calling her every two minutes. She will only pull further away from you. The amount of space you give depends on what happened while you were dating her. If you ended a serious relationship, you’ll need to give more space than you would if you had just dated a few times. Don’t chat with her friends or email her just to see how she’s getting along. In case you see her socially, be polite, say hi, but make it clear that you’re not bothering her. However, don’t give her too much space. If you leave her alone for long, that will give her plenty of time to move on.
Give yourself some space to reflect. Think about what went wrong. Sit down and ask yourself what you did to make you not want her. You have to make sure never to do it again. Do not date anyone else during the reflection period unless you are absolutely sure you want to go down that road again. Focus on self-improvement and work on not repeating any mistakes you made. Don’t pursue her until you’ve figured out what went wrong and know how to change it.
Are you worthy of her?
Your behavior showed some attractive traits that attracted your ex to you. However, these same traits could be unattractive to her. Men may be attracted by the physical beauty but women are attracted to traits. Forget about your traits and think of hers…you’re the one trying to get back to her. So, at this moment your traits don’t matter. Value her as much as you value yourself.