Comments on: Twelve Signs That Your Ex wants You Back http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/twelve-signs-that-your-ex-wants-you-back Advice and a strategy on how to get your girl back. Sat, 24 Jul 2010 09:37:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Mary http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/twelve-signs-that-your-ex-wants-you-back#comment-2812 Mary Sun, 28 Feb 2010 20:11:38 +0000 http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/?p=15#comment-2812 Hi Thank you for the feedback. I hope everything is good where you are. You are right, but it's just difficult for me right now. I just feel like we could have matured together you know. But I know he's a free spirited person who likes to socialize a lot and I guess by me being the opposite holds him back even though I really try not to. Even though I am far from him I probably still in some way unconsciously limit him from the things he wants to do. I am in the process of letting him go. I haven't talk to him for awhile now. About the whole marriage thing...I asked my self that and I agree that even a few months ago I would have said we are not ready because I'm still in school and financially unstable. However, I always thought that marriage is the right thing for the two of us but just not right now. Oh well, that relationship is over...I guess marriage for the two of us now or a few years from now is totally out of the question. =) Thank you again! Hi Thank you for the feedback. I hope everything is good where you are. You are right, but it’s just difficult for me right now. I just feel like we could have matured together you know. But I know he’s a free spirited person who likes to socialize a lot and I guess by me being the opposite holds him back even though I really try not to. Even though I am far from him I probably still in some way unconsciously limit him from the things he wants to do. I am in the process of letting him go. I haven’t talk to him for awhile now. About the whole marriage thing…I asked my self that and I agree that even a few months ago I would have said we are not ready because I’m still in school and financially unstable. However, I always thought that marriage is the right thing for the two of us but just not right now. Oh well, that relationship is over…I guess marriage for the two of us now or a few years from now is totally out of the question. =) Thank you again!

]]> By: admin http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/twelve-signs-that-your-ex-wants-you-back#comment-2811 admin Sat, 27 Feb 2010 12:36:37 +0000 http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/?p=15#comment-2811 Hi Mary. I'm finding it difficult to give a clear cut answer for your situation but I do have some thoughts on it and I'll list them out. I hope that my hard analytical treatment of this doesn't offend but it is a good way to get a perspective on things. I'm no stranger to the breakup process and I do know how painful it is. So I sympathize with how you're feeling. Here's the list: * He was the first and only boyfriend you've had. * You are his third girlfriend and the only one he's had a long term relationship with. * You both were 17 when you met. You probably know where this is leading...that both of you are relatively inexperienced in the area of meeting and dating other people. Also a lot of change happens between the ages of 17 and 25. People often outgrow their first relationships as teenagers. Your situation is common enough and it's completely understandable. Sometimes the first person you meet is the one for you and there are stable marriages based on people marrying their "high school sweet heart". However, the statistics are against this from happening. I can't tell you if you will be one of the exceptions. I can say that people are the same in a rough sense but that there's an enormous variation in the details of their individual personalities. Because of your limited experience, you can't know which of these different types make a good match for you. As I said before, a lot happens between the ages of 17 and 25. The transition from dependent teenager to independent adult is huge. Neither you or your boyfriend are the same people that you were 7.5 years ago. It's no surprise that your relationship is feeling the strain of this. Your boyfriends statement of "being held back" seems to be consistent with this. I don't know how much your boyfriends depression and thoughts of suicide factor into this or the suicide of his friend. If depression and suicidal thoughts are truly an issue, then getting the help of a professional is vital. Also remember that a breakup between two single people is a simpler affair than getting a divorce after you've married. You ask if I think there's a chance for getting back together and I'd say there probably is but you should be asking if marriage is the right thing for the two of you. He's already been pondering this and he has his doubts. Hi Mary. I’m finding it difficult to give a clear cut answer for your situation but I do have some thoughts on it and I’ll list them out. I hope that my hard analytical treatment of this doesn’t offend but it is a good way to get a perspective on things. I’m no stranger to the breakup process and I do know how painful it is. So I sympathize with how you’re feeling. Here’s the list:

* He was the first and only boyfriend you’ve had.
* You are his third girlfriend and the only one he’s had a long term relationship with.
* You both were 17 when you met.

You probably know where this is leading…that both of you are relatively inexperienced in the area of meeting and dating other people. Also a lot of change happens between the ages of 17 and 25. People often outgrow their first relationships as teenagers.

Your situation is common enough and it’s completely understandable. Sometimes the first person you meet is the one for you and there are stable marriages based on people marrying their “high school sweet heart”. However, the statistics are against this from happening. I can’t tell you if you will be one of the exceptions.

I can say that people are the same in a rough sense but that there’s an enormous variation in the details of their individual personalities. Because of your limited experience, you can’t know which of these different types make a good match for you.

As I said before, a lot happens between the ages of 17 and 25. The transition from dependent teenager to independent adult is huge. Neither you or your boyfriend are the same people that you were 7.5 years ago. It’s no surprise that your relationship is feeling the strain of this. Your boyfriends statement of “being held back” seems to be consistent with this.

I don’t know how much your boyfriends depression and thoughts of suicide factor into this or the suicide of his friend. If depression and suicidal thoughts are truly an issue, then getting the help of a professional is vital.

Also remember that a breakup between two single people is a simpler affair than getting a divorce after you’ve married.

You ask if I think there’s a chance for getting back together and I’d say there probably is but you should be asking if marriage is the right thing for the two of you. He’s already been pondering this and he has his doubts.

]]> By: Mary http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/twelve-signs-that-your-ex-wants-you-back#comment-2810 Mary Sat, 27 Feb 2010 05:41:19 +0000 http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/?p=15#comment-2810 Hello, I’m hoping you can help me with this. My ex and I have been together for 7.5 yrs, we’re both 25 years old now. We broke up about 2 months ago, and no communication for the last 6 weeks. I guess what makes me so confuse is that he seems to act like he loves me, wants to get married, and yet he ended things. I have to apologize because this post is all over the place, like mind is at the moment. His my 1st bf and I’m his 3rd (both girls dumped him but he didn’t seem to care). I was quiet,serious and smart, and he was smart, vocal and funny. Some of our problems previously included him not knowing how to act like a bf (ie flowers, phone calls), exaggerating/lying to me about his life, and cutting himself (he was depress and thought about suicide). We were able to get through those and be happy. I always thought we love each other. Our families have been asking us when we are going to get married. It was an unavoidable subject, during our numerous conversations about buying a house together and kids, I mentioned that I am hoping to get married after I finish grad school but I want to be engage for 2 years so we don’t rush anything (I am 3 sems away from graduating). About 2-3 yrs ago I found out that he asked a friend to help him get an engagement ring. Then I went out of state for school and comes back home for vacation. From then on there were so many instances where he would hint and talk to me about proposing but nothing happened. When people asked about it or when I would joke about it he would say when I am finish with school, after he buys a house, him wanting it to be a surprise, not long distance, saving money for the wedding, etc I thought his reasons were valid so I was patient. About 3 months ago..he hinted that a few months from now we may be engage. He seems so genuinely excited so I believed him and told him that there's no need for him to keep hinting. If he wants to propose then he should just do it. I didnt like how he keeps me excited then nothing. When I got back for winter vacation he was excited to see me and stayed at my house for two days. Then we went to London to pay respect to his friend (the friend ended his life a year ago). During that time people at the hotel called me his wife so he asked me how it feels like. I told him it felt weird because I still feel a bit young. I jokingly proposed to him. He asked me “where is my ring?” . We just laughed at that. we did have our quarrels because we were both tired, couldn’t sleep, and the inefficient airport (which made him complain so loud to anyone who would listen…I just ignored him). When we came back he went back to work right away. We didn’t see each other for a week and only minimal communication. When I fnally get to see him after that week he broke up with me. He seems a bit peeved at that time because I didn’t see or contact him as much during the week. All he said was that he does not want to be unfair to me, and that he does not love me. When I asked for explanation he listed numerous things (ie feeling of being held back by me, falling behind or ahead of him when walking) but cut himself off by saying that maybe he is just making excuses. He still wants us to be friends and that I am his best friend. I didn’t cry in front of him but accepted the break up. We went to his place so I can pick my stuff. I took our picture off the wall, but he said he’ll keep it because it is a “good picture”. when I was finally done, I sat next to him and he hugged me, he even laid his head on my stomach and we laid down holding each other. Still, he was set on breaking up so I left thinking that that would be last time we see each other. He was going to give me a blackberry phone a few days from then but I texted him and told him to keep the phone. I didn’t talk to him for a week except for sending him our pictures. A week after that, I went to his house to pick up something. He wasn’t home so I waited. When he came back he told me he just got hit by a car and I accidentally locked my keys inside so I stayed at his house for a bit. Gave him a back massage telling him that this may be the last time I get to show how much I care, and in turn he gave me a head massage. I had my eyes closed when he was massaging my head so he gave me little kisses all over my face (except my lips). We held each other for a while and I thought I saw a tear fell. I was able to ask him what makes him think that he does not love me because to me his actions were very confusing. All he said was that he has doubts and the doubts are strong enough. After he said that he shut me off and would not say anything any more. Please let me know what you think and if there’s still a chance…thank you. Hello, I’m hoping you can help me with this.
My ex and I have been together for 7.5 yrs, we’re both 25 years old now. We broke up about 2 months ago, and no communication for the last 6 weeks. I guess what makes me so confuse is that he seems to act like he loves me, wants to get married, and yet he ended things. I have to apologize because this post is all over the place, like mind is at the moment.
His my 1st bf and I’m his 3rd (both girls dumped him but he didn’t seem to care). I was quiet,serious and smart, and he was smart, vocal and funny. Some of our problems previously included him not knowing how to act like a bf (ie flowers, phone calls), exaggerating/lying to me about his life, and cutting himself (he was depress and thought about suicide). We were able to get through those and be happy. I always thought we love each other.
Our families have been asking us when we are going to get married. It was an unavoidable subject, during our numerous conversations about buying a house together and kids, I mentioned that I am hoping to get married after I finish grad school but I want to be engage for 2 years so we don’t rush anything (I am 3 sems away from graduating).
About 2-3 yrs ago I found out that he asked a friend to help him get an engagement ring. Then I went out of state for school and comes back home for vacation. From then on there were so many instances where he would hint and talk to me about proposing but nothing happened. When people asked about it or when I would joke about it he would say when I am finish with school, after he buys a house, him wanting it to be a surprise, not long distance, saving money for the wedding, etc I thought his reasons were valid so I was patient. About 3 months ago..he hinted that a few months from now we may be engage. He seems so genuinely excited so I believed him and told him that there’s no need for him to keep hinting. If he wants to propose then he should just do it. I didnt like how he keeps me excited then nothing.
When I got back for winter vacation he was excited to see me and stayed at my house for two days. Then we went to London to pay respect to his friend (the friend ended his life a year ago). During that time people at the hotel called me his wife so he asked me how it feels like. I told him it felt weird because I still feel a bit young. I jokingly proposed to him. He asked me “where is my ring?” . We just laughed at that. we did have our quarrels because we were both tired, couldn’t sleep, and the inefficient airport (which made him complain so loud to anyone who would listen…I just ignored him). When we came back he went back to work right away. We didn’t see each other for a week and only minimal communication. When I fnally get to see him after that week he broke up with me. He seems a bit peeved at that time because I didn’t see or contact him as much during the week. All he said was that he does not want to be unfair to me, and that he does not love me. When I asked for explanation he listed numerous things (ie feeling of being held back by me, falling behind or ahead of him when walking) but cut himself off by saying that maybe he is just making excuses. He still wants us to be friends and that I am his best friend. I didn’t cry in front of him but accepted the break up. We went to his place so I can pick my stuff. I took our picture off the wall, but he said he’ll keep it because it is a “good picture”. when I was finally done, I sat next to him and he hugged me, he even laid his head on my stomach and we laid down holding each other. Still, he was set on breaking up so I left thinking that that would be last time we see each other. He was going to give me a blackberry phone a few days from then but I texted him and told him to keep the phone. I didn’t talk to him for a week except for sending him our pictures. A week after that, I went to his house to pick up something. He wasn’t home so I waited. When he came back he told me he just got hit by a car and I accidentally locked my keys inside so I stayed at his house for a bit. Gave him a back massage telling him that this may be the last time I get to show how much I care, and in turn he gave me a head massage. I had my eyes closed when he was massaging my head so he gave me little kisses all over my face (except my lips). We held each other for a while and I thought I saw a tear fell. I was able to ask him what makes him think that he does not love me because to me his actions were very confusing. All he said was that he has doubts and the doubts are strong enough. After he said that he shut me off and would not say anything any more.
Please let me know what you think and if there’s still a chance…thank you.

]]> By: admin http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/twelve-signs-that-your-ex-wants-you-back#comment-2807 admin Wed, 17 Feb 2010 12:44:58 +0000 http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/?p=15#comment-2807 You need to be very careful about the the advice out there. There is a danger that you may not apply it correctly. Projecting desperation and coming across as pathetic certainly isn't attractive to the opposite sex. However, showing kindness and love is a big positive. So it's all in how you show this kindness and love. Imagine yourself on the receiving end of someone who has a desperate need of something from you. This person behaves a certain way that exudes his desperation and you can sense this from a mile away. You would automatically discount any overtures that this person makes. Now imagine someone who is genuinely caring or friendly making the same overtures to you. You would think this person is one great human being. This great human being isn't asking or demanding anything in return. He does it because he simply has an abundance of kindness and just enjoys the act of kindness itself. This may be very hard to do but the next time you go out with her, focus a little less on making her come back to you and instead, try to have a good time with her. If she gets enjoyment and fun from your get-togethers, it will remind her of the positives that a relationship with you has. Just remember that talking 'business' (the breakup issue) is not the definition of fun. Reawaken the emotions that made the two of you fall in love in the first place. You need to be very careful about the the advice out there. There is a danger that you may not apply it correctly. Projecting desperation and coming across as pathetic certainly isn’t attractive to the opposite sex. However, showing kindness and love is a big positive. So it’s all in how you show this kindness and love. Imagine yourself on the receiving end of someone who has a desperate need of something from you. This person behaves a certain way that exudes his desperation and you can sense this from a mile away. You would automatically discount any overtures that this person makes.

Now imagine someone who is genuinely caring or friendly making the same overtures to you. You would think this person is one great human being. This great human being isn’t asking or demanding anything in return. He does it because he simply has an abundance of kindness and just enjoys the act of kindness itself.

This may be very hard to do but the next time you go out with her, focus a little less on making her come back to you and instead, try to have a good time with her. If she gets enjoyment and fun from your get-togethers, it will remind her of the positives that a relationship with you has. Just remember that talking ‘business’ (the breakup issue) is not the definition of fun. Reawaken the emotions that made the two of you fall in love in the first place.

]]> By: Tee http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/twelve-signs-that-your-ex-wants-you-back#comment-2806 Tee Tue, 16 Feb 2010 21:35:02 +0000 http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/?p=15#comment-2806 Thanks for the words. I'm trying not to let my anger and hurt get in the way. I'm 33 and shes 29 so we're both adults. i just hope sooner or later she wakes up and sees that theres more at stake here then just another relationship. I'm just worried that the longer we're apart the easier it will be for her to forget about it. I talked to her last night and all she would say is "Give me space, i have to want to come home" i'm just holdin on to hope and prayers. Another question i would like some advice on is: Even though we're broken up i still do everything for her, give her money take her out etc. does a woman see this as pathetic and desperate to the point where she will just take advantage of the man doing it (after all she did leave me) or do they see it as a kind gesture or just as a man being sweet? Don't want to smother her or kill her with kindness or look pathetic but i do want to continue to do everything in my power for her and our kids. Thanks for the words. I’m trying not to let my anger and hurt get in the way. I’m 33 and shes 29 so we’re both adults. i just hope sooner or later she wakes up and sees that theres more at stake here then just another relationship.

I’m just worried that the longer we’re apart the easier it will be for her to forget about it. I talked to her last night and all she would say is “Give me space, i have to want to come home” i’m just holdin on to hope and prayers.

Another question i would like some advice on is: Even though we’re broken up i still do everything for her, give her money take her out etc. does a woman see this as pathetic and desperate to the point where she will just take advantage of the man doing it (after all she did leave me) or do they see it as a kind gesture or just as a man being sweet? Don’t want to smother her or kill her with kindness or look pathetic but i do want to continue to do everything in my power for her and our kids.

]]> By: admin http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/twelve-signs-that-your-ex-wants-you-back#comment-2805 admin Tue, 16 Feb 2010 12:41:36 +0000 http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/?p=15#comment-2805 Hi. From what you're saying, the situation looks good. You're only a few blocks apart, you're talking, she's expressed feelings for you, and both of you seem to be handling this like reasonable people. You have the capacity for true self reflection and can see things from both points of view. You'd be surprised at the number of people who are incapable of this. Too many people get wrapped up in their own anger which makes them overly self righteous. True lasting change is doable but difficult. You already know the 'why' behind the breakup and have already started the process of change. You will need to guard against regressing back to the old way of doing things. The stress you are feeling now is what is motivating you to change for the better. Stress can be a good thing sometimes because it's such a powerful motivator. There is a danger that once you both have made up, this stress will go away and your motivation to change will also go away. You also don't want to allow your desire to get her back right away to make you frustrated and angry and cause you to lash out. Keep going the way you have and be patient. A six year relationship is not an easy thing to let go - for you or for her. Hi. From what you’re saying, the situation looks good. You’re only a few blocks apart, you’re talking, she’s expressed feelings for you, and both of you seem to be handling this like reasonable people. You have the capacity for true self reflection and can see things from both points of view. You’d be surprised at the number of people who are incapable of this. Too many people get wrapped up in their own anger which makes them overly self righteous.

True lasting change is doable but difficult. You already know the ‘why’ behind the breakup and have already started the process of change. You will need to guard against regressing back to the old way of doing things. The stress you are feeling now is what is motivating you to change for the better. Stress can be a good thing sometimes because it’s such a powerful motivator. There is a danger that once you both have made up, this stress will go away and your motivation to change will also go away. You also don’t want to allow your desire to get her back right away to make you frustrated and angry and cause you to lash out. Keep going the way you have and be patient. A six year relationship is not an easy thing to let go – for you or for her.

]]> By: Tee http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/twelve-signs-that-your-ex-wants-you-back#comment-2804 Tee Sun, 14 Feb 2010 19:50:02 +0000 http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/?p=15#comment-2804 Just recently my girlfriend of 6 years packed her things and moved out of our house with our children. I feel totally lost and all alone. She finally had it with me, i'm not the overly sensitive type and i must admit i was the greatest guy to be around.She stuck by me through everything, job loss etc. For the first 3 years of our relationship i never showed i cared or loved her according to her but she bent over backwards for me and was always there. But regardless,i took everything out on her and after awhile all we did was fight. She was the perfect woman and mother, i knew all along i loved her, i just didn't show it.All she asked for was the small things like cuddling in bed and watching a movie or holding her hand in public...i never did that. For the past few months i saw the errors of my ways and tried to change but i think it was to late.Now she moved out and lives a few blocks away with the kids, she still calls,texts and comes around to drop the kids off or asks for money, once in awhile we will still have sex too. I give her everything i got because i love her and she knows i'll say yes. When she was here yesterday i had a letter written out for her, roses for Valentines day and a card...it brought her to tears, she cried right in my lap and told me "I love you, and im sorry about all this and hurting you. Its not easy for me either but i dont know what to do right now and i dont know if we will ever get back together". She also said i made her hurt and feel like crap for a long time and now i feel and understand what she felt and went through. Just last year she admitted to me that she did have a one night stand with some guy and apologized for it (give her credit for being truthful).You know what they say "Treat your woman right before another man does" I forgave her for that and it only happened one time and i felt it was my fault it happened (thats not like her to sleep around) My thing is can i get her back? im trapped in a living hell and feel like less a man without my family here and all of us together. Just this morning she came over here with our kids so we could all have Valentines Day breakfast together...i love seeing her and being around her but it hurts at the same time because i realize what i lost. She's given me so many chances to prove i would change and now that i know what its like to live without her i have truly changed (doubt she believes it though)...i just dont know how to save or fix this relationship and bring my family back home. Any help or friendly advice would be greatly appreciated Just recently my girlfriend of 6 years packed her things and moved out of our house with our children. I feel totally lost and all alone. She finally had it with me, i’m not the overly sensitive type and i must admit i was the greatest guy to be around.She stuck by me through everything, job loss etc. For the first 3 years of our relationship i never showed i cared or loved her according to her but she bent over backwards for me and was always there. But regardless,i took everything out on her and after awhile all we did was fight.

She was the perfect woman and mother, i knew all along i loved her, i just didn’t show it.All she asked for was the small things like cuddling in bed and watching a movie or holding her hand in public…i never did that. For the past few months i saw the errors of my ways and tried to change but i think it was to late.Now she moved out and lives a few blocks away with the kids, she still calls,texts and comes around to drop the kids off or asks for money, once in awhile we will still have sex too. I give her everything i got because i love her and she knows i’ll say yes.

When she was here yesterday i had a letter written out for her, roses for Valentines day and a card…it brought her to tears, she cried right in my lap and told me “I love you, and im sorry about all this and hurting you. Its not easy for me either but i dont know what to do right now and i dont know if we will ever get back together”.

She also said i made her hurt and feel like crap for a long time and now i feel and understand what she felt and went through. Just last year she admitted to me that she did have a one night stand with some guy and apologized for it (give her credit for being truthful).You know what they say “Treat your woman right before another man does”

I forgave her for that and it only happened one time and i felt it was my fault it happened (thats not like her to sleep around)

My thing is can i get her back? im trapped in a living hell and feel like less a man without my family here and all of us together. Just this morning she came over here with our kids so we could all have Valentines Day breakfast together…i love seeing her and being around her but it hurts at the same time because i realize what i lost.

She’s given me so many chances to prove i would change and now that i know what its like to live without her i have truly changed (doubt she believes it though)…i just dont know how to save or fix this relationship and bring my family back home.

Any help or friendly advice would be greatly appreciated

]]> By: admin http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/twelve-signs-that-your-ex-wants-you-back#comment-2624 admin Mon, 16 Nov 2009 13:57:56 +0000 http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/?p=15#comment-2624 You obviously still care a lot for her. Decide if you want to put the work into regaining her trust. It will mean always being a reliable and steady partner with her. It will take time. Try not to get defensive with her when she accuses you of playing games. You'll need to avoid any appearances of playing games. With time, the accusations should pass. If it doesn't work out, stay involved and active and someone new will come into your life. Good luck. You obviously still care a lot for her. Decide if you want to put the work into regaining her trust. It will mean always being a reliable and steady partner with her. It will take time. Try not to get defensive with her when she accuses you of playing games. You’ll need to avoid any appearances of playing games. With time, the accusations should pass.

If it doesn’t work out, stay involved and active and someone new will come into your life. Good luck.

]]> By: Ray http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/twelve-signs-that-your-ex-wants-you-back#comment-2621 Ray Sun, 15 Nov 2009 18:54:51 +0000 http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/?p=15#comment-2621 I never figured out exactly what she always meant by me playing games. I honestly had no idea what she meant by that or was it all the scaring from the past. I am sure i should just let her go and be on her own for a while but where do you go from here? I never figured out exactly what she always meant by me playing games. I honestly had no idea what she meant by that or was it all the scaring from the past. I am sure i should just let her go and be on her own for a while but where do you go from here?

]]> By: admin http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/twelve-signs-that-your-ex-wants-you-back#comment-2620 admin Sun, 15 Nov 2009 12:53:16 +0000 http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/?p=15#comment-2620 Hi Ray. Perhaps it may be too late but it depends on her feelings at the moment. The fact that she's given you so many chances suggests that you may get another. But I can see how her trust in you has eroded over those 5 years. When she found out about the unfaithfulness she was emotionally scarred by this. This weakened her trust. Subsequent dishonesty weakened it further. Because of this erosion of trust, it takes very little to make her suspicious of you even when you're doing nothing wrong. If you win her back, it will take a lot of work and time to regain her trust. She will be less likely to forgive further mistakes. This is because even a small mistake can trigger her old feelings of hurt. This <a href="http://howtogetyourgirlback.org/building-trust-a-relationship-is-on-quicksand-without-it" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">article</a> may help you reestablish her trust. Hi Ray. Perhaps it may be too late but it depends on her feelings at the moment. The fact that she’s given you so many chances suggests that you may get another. But I can see how her trust in you has eroded over those 5 years. When she found out about the unfaithfulness she was emotionally scarred by this. This weakened her trust. Subsequent dishonesty weakened it further. Because of this erosion of trust, it takes very little to make her suspicious of you even when you’re doing nothing wrong. If you win her back, it will take a lot of work and time to regain her trust. She will be less likely to forgive further mistakes. This is because even a small mistake can trigger her old feelings of hurt. This article may help you reestablish her trust.

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