Comments on: The Stages Of A Relationship – What To Expect In The Times Ahead

By: lou

lou — Wed, 14 Mar 2012 05:21:23 +0000

nonki i think youre best to move on too, he even told you he hasnt been able to find anyone else yet which means he thought about it. why would you say that at all if he thought you were the one for him and it would work out in the end? it sounds like he thought youd be around to take him back whenever he needs someone to drop back on which is why hes suprised that you were strong and made a decision to move on

By: jay

jay — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 09:05:41 +0000

Long distance is very hard

By: Marc

Marc — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 12:44:09 +0000

Hi Nonki. You are both university students engaged in a long distance relationship and can only see each other once every three months. Getting him back under those circumstances would be very difficult. His situation that you have little influence over (because of the distance) has evolved in a way that has cooled his feelings for you. If you did succeed in getting him back, you would be back in the long distance relationship that was the primary reason for the break up in the first place. I think you were right in wanting to move on. I’m sure that life at the university you are at can be a rich, enjoyable, and even a romantic one.

By: Nonki

Nonki — Sun, 26 Sep 2010 19:27:22 +0000

Hi. My ex boyfriend broke up with me a month ago. We were a long-distance couple and would only see eachother every 3 months. This was the primary reason for our break up. Before breaking up with me, we went through a rough patch for two months. We are both university students and his course is extremely stressful on him, which caused us to communicate less as the year progressed and workload became more stressful. In the 2 months before our breakup, he barely called, I did all the calling, but we tried keeping in touch every 2nd day or so over chat sites. I’m close with his friends and they would tell me that he’s crazy about me, but I felt like things had changed. After some time, he asked if we could take a break so as to sort out our personal problems. After a week of not talking to eachother, I panicked and we sorted things out. A month later, he broke up with me. It was very painful for me, because I still believe that this man is the one for me. He claims that I’m the one for him, but we need to be apart to work on ourselves as individuals. There’s personal stuff that he doesn’t want to go into with me, he would tell me that he doesn’t want to make his problems my own. He wanted us to remain friends and continue to communicate. So we have been texting eachother and chatting. But things just aren’t the same anymore, I couldn’t handle not talking to him as his girlfriend anymore, so I told him that I need to erase him from my life in order to move on. He did not understand this, he asked me why? And am I sure of my decision, he even told me that he hasn’t been able to find someone else. But when I asked him whether he was sure of his decision after we had broken up- he replied by saying that he is positive about his decision and that things are gonna work out the way we want, he prayed about it. Do you think there is still a chance for us, especially after cutting all contact with him, could he still come back, or is it time for me to just let go of him and accept that maybe he really does not want to be with me?