Getting older means getting wiser. The brain is like a computer that has an enormous capacity to learn from life’s experiences.

This is normally a good thing but the more you know about things and people, the less mystery there is to life. The world around you seems to be predictable and sometimes even boring.

However, this is only true of ‘your world’. The world at large is a big place and a single lifetime isn’t enough to experience everything that it has to offer.

As we gain more experience with life, we tend to settle into comfortable routines that can become monotonous.

There are many reasons why we do this. Getting older means there’s less time and energy for exploration because of our growing responsibilities. Our comfortable routines work well so we automatically default to them in the interest of getting things done with the least expenditure of time and effort.

So what does any of this have to do with maintaining a long term relationship? The answer is that while comfortable routines are useful for getting to work every morning or paying the bills, they shouldn’t dominate or limit our lives. We mustn’t let them define our love relationship with our partner. You need to make an effort to keep romance alive.

Mechanical routines kill romance. Romance demands thoughtfulness, fun, excitement, eroticism, and some creativity. Why are “firsts” such as your first kiss considered romantic moments? The reason is that the experience was new and involved some risk and was not something that was done hundreds of times before. The experience was anything but comfortable. It was exciting, it made the heart pound, it stimulated the chemistry of love.

Spend more time alone together and have fun. Recall the sweet thoughtful things that you did when first getting to know each other and do them again. Don’t wait for special occasions to exchange gifts, take walks, dine in romantic restaurants or quote poetry. Remember to mix things up a little, add some variety. If you succeed in making your partner feel good, you will feel good.

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If you’ve just met someone and the chemistry is very strong, you’re probably thoroughly infatuated with this person.

Most people in this situation will not be thinking about the different stages of a relationship that most couples go through.

However, a good understanding of the stages of a relationship will allow you to know where you are right now and what to expect in the future.

The first stage of a relationship is intensely exciting. You’re swept up in the excitement and romance of it all and life couldn’t get any better. Sexual attraction is strong and the chemistry of bonding has flooded your brain.
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So you don’t think you’re a romantic? Think again.

If you’ve ever enjoyed your partner’s reaction after doing something that pleased her, you’re a romantic.

If you like hearing an occasional love song on the radio, then you’re a romantic.

So if there are a lot of guys out there who are romantics at heart, why do women think men are clueless about romanticism?

The truth is that although they may have romantic feelings, they feel awkward about romantic expression. You have to remember that your partner isn’t asking you to express these feelings to the world at large, just to her.

To be a romantic, you must do things that will give her a little happiness. Your romantic act should have some surprise or unpredictability to it. But this isn’t always true. For example, you and your partner could work together to plan a romantic get away.

So now that you know that there’s a romantic deep inside you, you might as well put it to good use and make your woman happy. Some tips on expressing the romantic side that you know you have:
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Most guys realize that being masculine really turns on women. They may work out hard to get a chiseled body and often wear clothing styles that look very macho. So far, so good but they are overlooking something else that’s really effective in holding a woman’s interest.

This is having a skill-set called being romantic. Women can’t resist it and the movies of Hollywood have been telling us this for years. Some tips to help you get started:
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