1.) Try not to let your emotions and impulses pull you along when dealing with your ex. Ideally you want some sort of a well thought out plan to follow. At the very least, allow yourself to calm down and carefully take things one step at a time.

This piece of advice is easier said than done but ignoring it can really set your efforts back. The problem with your impulses is that they’re primed by deep seated fears as well as your current emotional state. These fears and emotions are often negative which can lead to actions that produce self defeating results.
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When you’ve just broken up with your ex, your system is under a lot of emotional stress. Nature has wired our brains so that extreme stress makes us act first and think later. Unfortunately, this doesn’t work so well if you’re trying to get your ex back.

Unless you’re an expert on dealing with break ups, your impulses will take you down the wrong path. Heated emotions will cause bad judgement which leads to poor decisions. Simply being aware of the usual mistakes that people make and staying calm will start things off right.

1.) Never speak badly about your ex. Less than nice things about her can get blurted out when you’re stressed. It may make you feel better because you’re venting off some steam.
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