Should You Marry Your High School Sweetheart?
Should you marry your high school sweetheart?
The answer is…it depends.
Here is a list of things to consider:
1.) How old are you now? How much life experience do you have?
A lot of change happens between 17 years and 25 years of age.
During these years, people move away from their parents, go to college, get jobs and start careers. Along the way, they make new friends, experience new things, and date new people.
They find out what they like and dislike and they discover what they are good at doing and what interests them. If you’ve already been though this and both of you still want to marry each other, then go ahead by all means.
On the other hand, if you marry at 17 or 18, the success of your marriage depends on whether your life experiences and the maturation process cause you to grow apart or grow together. This is the risk you’ll have to assess.
Another factor is that the demands of married life may make it more difficult to go to college. Some couples don’t mind that one partner has to support the other while he or she is working on a degree. It helps if there isn’t a child to support and lifestyles are kept simple.
2.) Another issue is dealing with personal regrets. Are you sure you won’t regret not having had relationships with other people? Your youth is a period of life that you get never get back once you’ve passed it.
Many people thoroughly enjoy being single. It’s a time of freedom and of exploration. If you have any desires or ambitions that have nothing to do with marital bliss, getting married at a very young age may not be for you.
3.) Are you currently experiencing problems as a couple? If so, the stress on your relationship may get worse as you both grow and mature as people. Neither you nor your partner will be the same people at 25 or 30 that you are right now. If you start a marriage on shaky ground, it’s doubtful it will survive.
4.) Do you want to get married because you’re afraid of living life as single person? Getting married to avoid loneliness or to avoid the dating scene are poor reasons. Many people are afraid of facing the unknown, but again, this is not a good reason.
The points expressed here may not be what you wanted to hear, but if you are going to marry, you need to do so with both eyes wide open. It’s not all gloom and doom either. There are some very stable couples who married right out of high school. The cards lined up for them. Just make sure that they aren’t stacked against you.
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