Overcoming Relationship Breakup – 4 Steps To Stop The Pain And Get On With Your Life
1.) Try to get your mind off of the breakup. It’s a natural tendency to want to stew over every little detail of the breakup and it’s going to take will power to break off this habit. At every chance you get, you will want to think about it and talk it over with anyone willing to listen.
If you fail to break out of this, you will turn into one of those people who get stuck in the past, stuck on a past relationship. So stop giving in to this now, and find other things to think about.
2.) Do your best to remain on good terms with your ex. Keeping up a friendship will keep the channels open for a future reconciliation. Make an effort to help them when needed and they will do the same for you.
3.) Don’t neglect you personal appearance and hygiene. Because you’re down in the dumps, you will find any excuse to just let yourself go. Perhaps you may feel that there isn’t any point and that no one will care anyway. The danger with this type of thinking is it will often become self fulfilling.
People, including your ex, will begin to keep their distance from you and you will find yourself alone.
4.) The last and most important point: Don’t give up. People get back together with their ex all the time. So the odds are much better than you think.
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Does #2 only apply if you want to get back together with that person?
I wonder about it because it just sort of seems that if someone doesn’t treat me properly & I stay friends with him/her, then it almost comes off like I condoned what they did. (e.g. “Kick me more; I liked it.”)
What do you think? (I know currently I don’t stay friends with anyone who’s done me any “major dirt”. My attitude is later for them & forget them. Who wants to get back with someone who’s going to treat you like dirt or trash or worse, for example?) …just wondering.
Yes. This applies if you wish to get back together. If you have no desire to see the person again, then you are right, there’s no point to staying friends.