How To Make Your Woman Feel Appreciated

“I can live for two months on a good compliment.”
- Mark Twain

Often in the natural world around us, things tend to go one way or the other, come together or spiral apart. There isn’t much of a middle ground.

Take global warming for example, just a few degrees increase in the earth’s average temperature and the global weather impacts are huge. We’re all familiar with the saying that when it rains it pours…

Photo by Jack Batchelor.

The same can be said about relationships. Imagine your partner makes a snide remark at your expense. Your response will be to act hurt and perhaps you may try to even the score with her.

This hurts your partner and so she gets angry and responds in kind. This destructive cycle then feeds off itself and your relationship spirals downhill very fast.

The opposite is also true. An unexpected gesture of affection or compliment from your partner will predispose you to respond in kind to her, and on it goes, a positive cycle that snowballs on itself… This “either – or” tendency of things can be used to your advantage. Do the things that get you on her good side, keep it up, and she will do things to stay on your good side.

So how do you get on her good side? First, it’s not heroic acts or big grand gestures. These aren’t very practical and can’t be done often enough. Instead it’s all the small stuff that’s done frequently everyday that works. It’s all the small actions that demonstrate affection, attentiveness, and appreciation.

This can sound exhausting to some people, but the good news is that you won’t have to undergo a sudden radical change. Just start small and even this small change for the better will be immediately noticed.

A lot of men will feel uplifted when they know that they’ve made their partner happy in some way. This feeling is a kind of bonus in addition to the good will that she will start sending your way. So how do you go about showing all this attention, affection, and appreciation?

First, you will have to be alert to your partners bid to get your attention. It could be something as small as a touch on your arm or a comment while you’re watching the game on TV. The worst thing to do is to not respond at all or pretend that you’re following along.

If you are even moderately sensitive then you know what it’s like when someone doesn’t bother responding when you’ve got something to say. You must either give her your undivided attention, or tell her that whatever it is that your doing can’t wait and that you’ll get back with her when you’re finished.

You will also need to understand that men and women tend to communicate differently. When men talk among themselves, their communication tends to be more brief than that of women. Why is this? Because men use words to communicate information. You can’t go wrong if your style is getting to the point when you’re talking to another man.

Women like to use words to communicate their subjective state such as emotions and feelings. Therefore their conversation is lengthy and full of descriptive detail. Try following along and imagining yourself feeling or sensing what she is communicating. At some point you’ll be able to really describe how your day went the next time that she asks you. Remember that she can’t be treated like another guy because she’s a woman.

When it comes to affection and appreciation, lots of small gestures will always win out over the occasional home run hit. Another thing to bear in mind is that exactly what it is that you say or do is less important than how you do it.

It’s the feelings that you project rather than the actual content that matters. When you compliment her or go out of your way to notice her new dress, say it with an affectionate tone of voice.

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