Comments on: Four Break Up Signs – Hard Times Ahead For Your Relationship?

By: Ivana

Ivana — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 17:47:03 +0000

Hi I had broked up with my ex boyfriend from last year, things really awful, no communctiation, he keep stright work allday and come home for no time lover, or do anything with me like a fun together with my childern…I take care of my kids for 24/7 and he dont do anything but he do help change a diapers that all what he can do. I keep funny with my stomch, he stop kiss my cheeck before he go work since 2 year. we was together almost 5 year. I have no idea why he stop and i keep ask him hows day blahh…he keep said ok i need go sleep. i feel whatever ok…its thing not work for us…thats time I giving up and cant stand this anymore cuz i Need communcation, or something to do fun what I want with my childern i dont want keep forever no thanks! so I told him this not work for us, then last min, he beg me and want to stay together, i will do anything I promise. you think it will be real? I dont believe myself cuz i know he will keep me like a slave…I dont want to…I leaving him and take my childern…he act babycry and call me often, beg and want family again. Since year, I date someone…He is great man to me and my childern he take us to all we want…he want to see childern happy. its work on communcation, he keep chat with my kids , play alot with them, watch tv together, eat family together…this is what i really want. my kids seem love him so much. my boyfriend work for half time, and sometimes on depond full day. I dont mind cuz he keep come home and still want to do together…i am really happy with that…we are togther for almost 2 year right now. i know relationship really hard but try my best on that cuz i want see my childern happy and accpet for who man is will alway with me in my heart.

By: Marc

Marc — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 11:31:42 +0000

That was well put. Thank you Mike.

By: Mike

Mike — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 04:05:33 +0000

One last item. never assume she is seeing another man. this question never came up in our separation. a new relationship takes time and energy with a whole new set of problems. Typically, it is never another man. Typically it is the relationship she is in. So never accuse, never assume, and start looking inward, there is where you will find all of your answers. You may not like what you see and if you do not like it then bingo you have the reasons why she left. Ask yourself this, who wants to live a life of feeling miserable. The time to act is before she leaves, but if you miss the tell tale signs, the time to act is immediatly. Do NOT waste valuable time because you will surly lose her.

By: Mike

Mike — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 03:56:45 +0000

I will keep it short and sweet. I was married for 25 years and when I was out of town my wife left me. At first I was angry, very angry. I seemed to have played into this emotion to easily. After a few days I started to focus on the things that were wrong. You have to realize during this period she would not even take my calls. The lady she was living with made her feel very confortable there. But as always it was not her home. Things that I focused on were myself (health, weight, job, family and my children who are over 18) I told my wife that I am not dating, and the reason why I am not dating is because we are still married. At first she was reluctant to believe this nor did she care. Here is what I found out, I had to feel her sorry (empathy) I had to put myself in her place and understand where she was. I also had to take the time to understand that love is just not another 4 letter word. Love is about pride, feeling intimate, sharing, interest, joy, serentity and hope. Hope that things will change. You have to set the course of your ship. You have to belive what you doing is right and never put your wife or yourself in a position of feeling devalued. When I wife leaves this is a major decision. Basically he is giving everything up that she know and she is confortable with. Mine even saw an attorney. When I first saw her she looked horrible, so please realize when your wife leaves she is not having a good time. She is in a bad place. Start showing her you care. She is going to be angry with you, but do not fight back. Two mad people make life unbearable. You will not ice by being nice you will begin to change her behavior toward you. I rememeber our first date after the break up, we went to a winery, the first words out of her mouth was dont F##k with me. I said nothing and proceed to enjoy her company and hang out, we said nothing until we finished the fourth bottle of wine. We stayed for six hours, I realized she would not have stayed if she did not enjoy my company. Now several weeks later even though we been separated for 6 weeks, she is going to spend every day on this weekend with me. My message is simple, it takes time to build trust again, it takes time to throw out the old ideas and bring in new ideas. Listen to what she says. she will tell you whats broken. Fight for your marriage, after all she is your wife. One thing for certain, do not remove anything from her that would be hers if she was your wife. if you do that you are cutting the ties that bind you together. I have since decided to sell our home I told her and the next home I am buying is an estate, I have improved myself imensly. I have turned down several dates. I am will to give this a chance, so you have to move two plans in the same direction. You have to prepare for the end as well for a new relationship with your wife. Either which way you are getting your life back together and when she sees the train pulling our of the station she will either get on board or tell you to leave. either way a decision was made and you will have the opportunity to get over the heartache that was just presented to you.

By: Wendy

Wendy — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 00:35:55 +0000

Dear jessica
I understand how your feeling.. He wants to turn off from you. He was scared to tell you something what he is doing.. He don’t want to hurt your feeling. He may looking someone else. He is looking for attractive woman. He wants to be true love and who understand him. It not mean to spending a good time.. Most woman think that spending time it may be longer good relationship. That’s not true. For examles, feeling of continuous frustation about the emotion, emotion abuse, and growing feelings empty, extreme distance or totally cut off former close relationship you used to have with your friends or family, poor relationship that he may not satisfied.

By: Wendy

Wendy — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 00:25:51 +0000

Dear Preshy
He seem not interesting in you,because he is going to see someone else. He don’t want you to know “man keep secret in mind” He can’t tell you how or why he did not give you some have a fun or whatever it is. Also He dont want to hear word “I love you ” more than that.He not may interesting to hear say repeat..Because He already know before you say. Give him space time, because he needs space time when he felt right time and he will come back to you and then he will says, “love you” Don’t beg or running over him.. if you beg him go back with you again.. He just like pretend to be with you, you know? I know this is not easy. Also did you know that man don’t like woman who nagging or bad attitude, it make him lost interesting. Yes, that’s true.

By: Wendy

Wendy — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 00:16:46 +0000

@gone: I believe he wants to space time and distanct from you. he don't want to hurt your feelings. He rather to distanct and let his feeling to turn on love, you know? He can't tell you how he felt like limit time. Did you recongize these woman tell how they felt like emotion feeling. Man did not want to share with their emotion feeling, just limit. Because man want anyone who can understand man's feeling instead of telling, you know?

By: Wendy

Wendy — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 00:11:14 +0000

My ex- boyfriend and I were together for 7 years. We’re broke up last years ago. He wanted to broke up with me, because we’re have alot problem often. I told him that I need some time space. I felt not comforty around him, because I felt funny something in my stomach it really bother me alot. I found out that he talked with his ex-girlfriend in school everyday.Plus he talked with his good friendship Devaor in text like deep love things whiling he was with me in relationship. I don’t do nothing with him, I did not cheated on him since. I know he felt guilty and made mistake, because he kept liar me alot. This is not good idea. I noticed him to changed his behavior not normal before. I told him that I decided to walk away from him. I will never see him again. I told him that go back with his ex-girlfriend and Devaor too. In few months in later, he asked me that he wants to work out with me for beginning a new life in future. He asked me for an apologize. I accept his forgive in matter. He won’t let me go. He says,” He will spy and following on me whatever I go somewhere.” Also he not let me to date with other guy, because he may became jealous He and I were dicuss about the relationship, because he need to learn to understand about woman’s perspective. Also I need to learn about man’s perpsective, and woman and man are not same perspective.He gave me a space time! That’s right. God created these man and woman are different on level. I believed that magic itself when he was turing on me again. But I’m not running over him! Right now we’re best friend and continue to work out again no matter what.

By: gone

gone — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 17:41:24 +0000

preshy this is wht happened with me, i gave him an ultimatum he left and is now in a relathionship two wks later…we lived together for a yr…he decided he didnt want so muc commitment :/

By: Preshy

Preshy — Tue, 03 May 2011 17:27:40 +0000

Am always havin problem wit my bf,he doesnt giv me attention,we dnt go out,he always give me d excuse dt he doesnt hv time,bt he spend time wit his friends and himself.does it mean dt he dont love me again,bt he said he do!or do i love him more than he love me?pls somebody help?am dam cofused here.