Four Break Up Signs - Hard Times Ahead For Your Relationship?

Before a disaster strikes, a storm hits, or something that’s just plain bad happens, there are almost always warning signs. How often do you hear people say: “if only we had heeded the warning signs”. This is true of political events, storms, bridge collapses, and of relationship break ups.

A word of warning. If you are prone to paranoia, don’t read this article. You must bear in mind that the points made here address changes in behavior that were not normal for your partner in the past. Also, the more points that apply to your relationship the more likely it’s in trouble.

1.) Are you fighting over the smallest of things? An occasional argument is normal. But habitual fighting is a bad sign.

Blowing up over small, silly little things all the time means there is a more serious problem that you as a couple don’t want to face. Is fear of a break up keeping you together? Or is it something else that should be addressed immediately?

2.) Does it seem as if your partner is avoiding you? This type of behavior takes on many forms but ultimately it means that she’s never around and can’t be reached. An unreachable partner is good reason for concern.

The most common examples of avoidance occurs through the medium of phones and cell phones. Do you find that she never picks up when you call or that she never responds to your voice mail? Do you find that you are seeing less of her because she’s “never around”?

3.) Have you been demoted to “chopped liver” status? This means that everyone and everything else is more important than you. For example, her calendar is always too full to accommodate you.

This is a very painful and demeaning situation to be trapped in. She has all but literally kicked you out of her life. Even if you haven’t broken up yet, you might as well be.

4.) Has she lost all interest in the things that you used to enjoy together? Perhaps she would rather do them by herself or with someone else? This is a major indication of discontent and should be dealt with immediately.

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