Compatibility In Love – How To Know If She’s For You

Just met someone but it’s not clear if the person is your type? There’s plenty of chemistry but how can you be sure that he or she is right for you? For a long term relationship, pure chemistry isn’t enough.

Here is what you should search for when looking for a life partner:

1.) Personality

The topic of personality is quite complicated and compatibility between the different types of personalities gets even more complicated.

Rather than exploring this in depth, just ask yourself: Do you frequently have to restrain your irritation at the other person’s behavior?

Maybe he or she is extremely hyper or maybe a rock has more energy than this person. Maybe he’s an obsessive perfectionist or maybe she is a control freak. While the types of personality clash are endless, the main point is whether you can feel the stress of a clash.

2.) Core Values

Can you agree with respect to your core values? One person may be very ambitious while the other has a more laid back approach to life.

Are both of you fanatical about being physically fit or do you prefer to spend the day on a couch? Maybe you’re the deep thinking type of person while your partner is more of a doer. Does your partner resent the missed time together because of your career ambitions?

Myth busted: Opposites do not attract.

Scientists have determined that opposites do not attract.
Men and women are inclined to select partners who mirror themselves.
This similarity goes further than physical appearance: similarities in attitudes, morals, and social status are also sought.
The greater the similarity, the more likely the relationship will last over the long term.
Differences are a potential source of conflict and too many of them will cause an unstable relationship.
The more of a quality (be it physical or nonphysical) that a person has, the more that person seeks it out in his partner.
Therefore, one should seek out a partner with similar qualities to oneself and not try for someone with superior qualities.
The numbers bear this out: statistics show that marriages between similar people are more successful than between dissimilar people.

3.) Education

Is there a rough equivalence in amounts of education? A large education gap can lead to insecurity, contempt, and resentment. The insecure person with less education may resent the ‘big words’ used by the other.

The highly educated person may feel that he needs to censure his words. Education also affects your profession as well as your outlook on the world.

4.) Financial Compatibility

Of the many disputes that couples have, money is most often the subject. Some people like to manage their money, while others are very casual about spending it. Some individuals easily tolerate financial uncertainty while many others require a high degree of financial stability in their lives.

5.) Social Compatibility

If one person is shy and the other is very outgoing, conflict is guaranteed later on in the relationship. Your social compatibility affects the types of dates and outings that you can agree on.

It affects the quality of enjoyment that you will experience at social events. The shy person may not want to be left alone while the other works the room. The outgoing person resents being held back.

While this compatibility listing is not exhaustive, stress can result from failing to meet any one of these points. But an incompatibility doesn’t necessarily spell the end of your relationship. It just places more demands on your maturity and ability to compromise.

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