Getting older means getting wiser. The brain is like a computer that has an enormous capacity to learn from life’s experiences.

This is normally a good thing but the more you know about things and people, the less mystery there is to life. The world around you seems to be predictable and sometimes even boring.

However, this is only true of ‘your world’. The world at large is a big place and a single lifetime isn’t enough to experience everything that it has to offer.

As we gain more experience with life, we tend to settle into comfortable routines that can become monotonous.

There are many reasons why we do this. Getting older means there’s less time and energy for exploration because of our growing responsibilities. Our comfortable routines work well so we automatically default to them in the interest of getting things done with the least expenditure of time and effort.

So what does any of this have to do with maintaining a long term relationship? The answer is that while comfortable routines are useful for getting to work every morning or paying the bills, they shouldn’t dominate or limit our lives. We mustn’t let them define our love relationship with our partner. You need to make an effort to keep romance alive.

Mechanical routines kill romance. Romance demands thoughtfulness, fun, excitement, eroticism, and some creativity. Why are “firsts” such as your first kiss considered romantic moments? The reason is that the experience was new and involved some risk and was not something that was done hundreds of times before. The experience was anything but comfortable. It was exciting, it made the heart pound, it stimulated the chemistry of love.

Spend more time alone together and have fun. Recall the sweet thoughtful things that you did when first getting to know each other and do them again. Don’t wait for special occasions to exchange gifts, take walks, dine in romantic restaurants or quote poetry. Remember to mix things up a little, add some variety. If you succeed in making your partner feel good, you will feel good.

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You might think that your partners desire to go on an adventure trip alone is harmless.

Maybe he or she will return from it refreshed and will love you all the more because of it.

But this article on Gadling.com says that what often happens is the relationship or marriage suffers a breakup because of the trip.

People go on adventure trips for escape purposes. If your partner wants to go on an escape trip that doesn’t include you, then you have to wonder if the thing that he or she wishes to escape is you or the relationship.

There may be underlying issues in your relationship that need to be addressed soon. Real soon.

If your partner has no objections with you coming along, then by all means, go with him or her. The trip then serves to expand the horizons of the two of you as a couple.

If you’ve already suffered a break up, it doesn’t have to be the end. With the help of the right guide, it is still possible to get her back. See my review of The Magic of Making Up.

If you’re in a relationship that has potential, that is worth saving, then this article is for you.

There are many instances of breakups between couples that need not have happened.

Often these are the result of small things and oversights repeated over time until the problem blows up and gets out of control.

If there’s a lot of friction in your relationship over small little things, then it’s time to do something constructive about it.

Decide right now if you’re ready to put into action, the following steps:

1.) Identify the cause of the problem.

The causes of some problems are obvious such as kids, annoying habits, or money problems. Perhaps your partner isn’t shy about telling you what bugs her.
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As men, we all know the traits in women that we find attractive but many of us lack a complete understanding about the masculine traits that turn on women.

We sort of know that being tall, athletic, and good looking are attractive traits. However, many guys falsely believe that it’s all about physical attributes. We tend to assume that like us, women place a lot of importance on ‘looks’.

This assumption is a mistake. While women do respond to physical attractiveness, behavioral attributes are also a big turn on for them.

It turns out that these behaviors are the same ones that we find admirable in other men. Things like confidence, assertiveness, independence, adventurousness, energy, daring, strength of character, and healthy self esteem, among many others.
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If you’ve just met someone and the chemistry is very strong, you’re probably thoroughly infatuated with this person.

Most people in this situation will not be thinking about the different stages of a relationship that most couples go through.

However, a good understanding of the stages of a relationship will allow you to know where you are right now and what to expect in the future.

The first stage of a relationship is intensely exciting. You’re swept up in the excitement and romance of it all and life couldn’t get any better. Sexual attraction is strong and the chemistry of bonding has flooded your brain.
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Just met someone but it’s not clear if the person is your type? There’s plenty of chemistry but how can you be sure that he or she is right for you?

For a long term relationship, pure chemistry isn’t enough.

Here is what you should search for when looking for a life partner.

1.) Personality. The topic of personality is quite complicated and compatibility between the different types of personalities gets even more complicated.

Rather than exploring this in depth, just ask yourself: Do you frequently have to restrain your irritation at the other person’s behavior?

Maybe he or she is extremely hyper or maybe a rock has more energy than this person. Maybe he’s an obsessive perfectionist or maybe she is a control freak. While the types of personality clash are endless, the main point is whether you can feel the stress of a clash.
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We often rely on our common sense to know what makes a relationship strong but we’re often wrong. For instance, are you aware that you don’t have to always spice things up in your relationship? Consistency is actually more important than variety.

This article will present eight tips that will fortify the bond with your partner by laying down a strong foundation of trust.
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“I can live for two months on a good compliment.”
- Mark Twain

Often in the natural world around us, things tend to go one way or the other, come together or spiral apart. There isn’t much of a middle ground.

Take global warming for example, just a few degrees increase in the earth’s average temperature and the global weather impacts are huge. We’re all familiar with the saying that when it rains it pours…

The same can be said about relationships. Imagine your partner makes a snide remark at your expense. Your response will be to act hurt and perhaps you may try to even the score with her.
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One of the most common complaints that women have about their partner is that after a while the guy just stops doing all the nice things that he used to do when they first dated. It seems that when the guy knows that he has her, he’ll take her for granted.

Although some men will take their significant others for granted, often the problem has more to do with differences in how men and women value things. Men tend to value things in a very proportionate manner. Big things are valued a lot. Little things are valued a little.

Since small things have such little value, a lot of men couldn’t be bothered with them. That’s why a man’s apartment tends to be austere compared to a woman’s. His apartment decor will reflect the few big things that really matter to him and nothing else.
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