Nice guys: if you wish to attract women and keep them in long term relationships, please read on.
Ever watched one of those old cartoons where someone is trying to get out of the way of a falling tree? Why does he always run in the same direction that the tree falls?
Why doesn’t he jump to the side? He seems to see only one option: racing the tree before it hits him. Stepping to the side out of the path of the tree never occurs to him.
The whole nice guy vs jerk question is no different. The nice guy sees his options as: be nice or be a jerk. Is that really all the choices a guy has?
This is called polarized thinking, when things are either this way or that way. Many frustrated nice guys feel they must choose between being a good person without a woman or being a jerk with women hanging all over them.
Here are three quotes that summarize how a lot of nice guys feel about their problem:
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If you saw your girlfriend in a bar flirting with and kissing someone, would this make you jealous?
Suppose she where holding hands with or embracing another man while walking in a park? Most people would feel instant jealousy under these instances. In both examples, the threat to your relationship is real. Feeling jealous is normal when your relationship is threatened.
Even in less threatening circumstances such as her day to day interactions with men at her job or her socializing with male friends, feeling uneasy is normal especially if you haven’t known your girlfriend for very long.
Being jealous about your girlfriend becomes a problem when you’ve known her for a long time and she has given you no reason for feeling this way.
If you exhibit any of the following symptoms, it’s time to admit you have a problem and do something about it:
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Long distance relationships (LDR) are a fact of life for a lot of people. The demands of a career, military service, going to college, a bad job market, and online dating services that bring together people living thousands of miles apart are some of the reasons for LDR’s.
Many couples don’t like them but these relationships can work and many have grown stronger as a result.
Contrary to popular opinion, long distance relationships are no more likely to fail than relationships between people living close together. If your relationship is on rocky grounds to start with, the distance between you isn’t going to matter. In fact, living near someone you weren’t meant to be with just increases the opportunities for more conflict. When you put an argumentative couple in the same room, you get more arguments.
Another common concern has to do with infidelity. The risk of cheating has little to do with distance and time apart. It has everything to do with the quality of the people and the relationship. Opportunity doesn’t guarantee that cheating will happen anymore than the opportunity to shop lift causes everyone to steal. If your partner is inclined to cheat, it will happen regardless of the distance.
LDR’s require trust, compatibility with your partner, and know-how to make them succeed.
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Some of our strongest memories are also painful ones. Often they involve fights with a spouse or a girlfriend over any of a number of issues. If fighting brings on so much pain, why do we continue to engage in them?
Chronic fighting doesn’t just happen to clueless couples who know nothing about resolving conflict. Sometimes there are wrong things about the relationship that invite constant bickering. Five of these are are discussed below:
1.) Incompatibility
No two people are alike so conflict is inevitable.
But the less compatible you are with your partner, the more differences you will have and these will always be a potential source of conflict. When two people are completely incompatible, the best that they can hope for is a relationship that is based 100 percent on compromise.
Some consider compromise to be a noble thing, but if your entire relationship and your life is nothing but a collection of compromises, it’s not much of a relationship or a life.
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