You and your ex have had a parting of the ways but now you have this sinking feeling that the break up was a mistake. If she also had the same regrets as yours, then you might stand a decent chance at getting her back. But asking her straight out may be too chancy, so perhaps some subtlety is needed here.

Before anything else, think over the nature of the breakup. How severe was the situation? If the difficulties were over small things that finally blew up into something big, she’ll probably want to come back after a little cooling off.

It’s less clear if more serious issues were at the heart of the break up. If this is your situation then you need to tune into the small signals from your ex that she wants you back. Here are twelve:
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The things that can go wrong in a relationship seem to be endless. Given the differences between the sexes, friction is inevitable. Sometimes the conflicts are so frequent and violent that a permanent breakup is the best thing to do.

Often however, couples break up for silly little reasons that blow up over time. You can avoid this by recognizing and dealing with the following most common reasons for a breakup.

All of these reasons stem from self centeredness and can be avoided by remembering that you are part of a couple. Your concerns must include those of your partner as well as your own.

1.) Not caring about or expressing care for the feelings of your partner. When you are troubled by something or if something fantastic has happened, you’d naturally want to share this with your partner. Imagine him or her not listening or bothering to respond. How would this make you feel?
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If you are thinking about getting on your knees and expressing your undying love and need for her – Don’t do it. Leave this strategy to the actors in bad movies. Women are attracted to a number of qualities in men. Weakness and neediness is not one of them.

In our culture, men are supposed to be powerful and self-assured. They’re the doers, and are expected to go out into the world and to make it their own. Women expect and are attracted by this. However, a great deal has been harped over sensitivity in men.

Sensitivity will make a man more attractive but only when he has strength and self-assurance. Even so, clingy behavior, crying, and neediness will make you seem wimpy. These expressions of despair and panic should not be confused with sensitivity. It will destroy your worth to her as a man.
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If you have recently broken up and want to get back with your ex, the very first thing to do is to try to regain some sense of balance in your emotional state. If not, you’ll be subject to acting on impulses that are fueled by the intense emotions of the breakup. Acting on these impulses will only make the process of reconciliation that much harder.

Once you’ve regained control, you will want to refrain from making any immediate contact with your ex. You’ll need some time to assess whether the relationship is truly worth being saved.
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1.) Try to get your mind off of the breakup. It’s a natural tendency to want to stew over every little detail of the breakup and it’s going to take will power to break off this habit. At every chance you get, you will want to think about it and talk it over with anyone willing to listen.

If you fail to break out of this, you will turn into one of those people who get stuck in the past, stuck on a past relationship. So stop giving in to this now, and find other things to think about.

2.) Do your best to remain on good terms with your ex. Keeping up a friendship will keep the channels open for a future reconciliation. Make an effort to help them when needed and they will do the same for you.

3.) Don’t neglect you personal appearance and hygiene. Because you’re down in the dumps, you will find any excuse to just let yourself go. Perhaps you may feel that there isn’t any point and that no one will care anyway. The danger with this type of thinking is it will often become self fulfilling.

People, including your ex, will begin to keep their distance from you and you will find yourself alone.

4.) The last and most important point: Don’t give up. People get back together with their ex all the time. So the odds are much better than you think.