You’ve been separated from your ex for a long time.

Now you suddenly realize that the breakup should never been allowed to happen.

What should you do?

Don’t assume that because it has been a while, that it will be impossible to get her back.

For all you know, she may be having similar misgivings or perhaps her feelings about the breakup aren’t so volatile now that some time has passed.

In any case, you won’t really know until you try.

These four tips should start you on that path and give you the best chance to make up and reconnect.

1.) You will have to get to know her again. It’s been a while and she has been through a lot. So you can’t just jump in there and take things up where they were left off. You will have to take the time and make the effort to get to know what she’s been through and the person she has become.

You can’t assume that the situation is the same. And, you really don’t want it to be the same since it was that situation that led to the breakup.

2.) Take her out on a date. Once you have an understanding of how the breakup has changed her, you will want to ask her out on a date. This date should be treated like a first date and should be romantic. This will demonstrate how serious you are about reconciliation.

3.) Don’t try to rush the pace. Doing so will make your company stressful to her which is always a bad thing. Remember that you are asking her to make a major life decision in getting back with you. She will need some time and space to process and sort out her thoughts and feelings.

4.) Be romantic and always, always be thoughtful. You may be thinking that you feel a lot of love for her. The best way to communicate this love is to do it in ways that are romantic and thoughtful. It’s obvious why you want to be romantic but being thoughtful demonstrates maturity and a seriousness of intent on your part.

So, making the effort to getting to know her again through dating in a way that’s thoughtful, romantic, and doesn’t crowd into her time and space is the key.

If you’re interested in a proven method for winning your ex back, read my review of The Magic of Making Up.

A break up is painful on many levels.

This pain is especially intense for the person who was dumped.

He or she is caught up in the pain of loss.

When your life is built up around a relationship, you get used to the good things that the relationship brings into your life.

The bonding between you and the other person consists of thousands of connections that your psyche has grown accustomed to.

After the break up, these connections are severed, leaving feelings of emptiness. Now, it is an understandable desire to want to rush into another relationship.
More on Surviving A Breakup – A Rebound Relationship Is Not The Answer

If you are like many people who are trying to get their ex back, your strategy is probably to try to talk over the problem that caused the break up.

After all, it’s the logical thing to do. There’s a problem that needs to be fixed, so you fix it. Guys especially have this type of problem solving mind set.

This direct approach is the only game in town that works if you’re dealing with inanimate things such as troubleshooting a software bug, designing a bridge, or repairing a car.

But in the land of relationships, this is not the best way to go.

Even the most analytical and rational person is first and foremost, a creature of emotion. We all are, and our relationships are defined and dominated by how we feel about our partner.
More on An Easier Way To Get Your Ex Back

Feeling angry over a breakup? Do you feel that you can never, ever, EVER, forgive him or her?

Obviously getting back together again isn’t in the cards if this is the case.

But even if the relationship was very destructive and you are better off without him or her, it’s in your best interest to forgive your ex.

Why is that? Well, one thing you may want to consider is: who are you really punishing by holding a grudge? If you don’t already know, the answer is: you’re punishing yourself.
More on Getting Over Your Ex With The Power Of Forgiveness

Breaking up can inflict a very deep type of pain that is close in nature to the process of grieving.

Your significant other has left, leaving a hole in you that refuses to heal.

The relationship itself seems to have “passed on”, never to return.

As with all of the pain that people around the world must endure, life goes on. It’s essential to your emotional health that you succeed in getting through the pain. Getting on with your life should be more than surviving, you want to be thriving again. Below is some advice for putting the pain behind you and moving forward.
More on Break Up Pain – How To Move Past A Painful Break Up

A breakup can really knock you off your feet but it doesn’t mean that your relationship with your girlfriend is finished.

In spite of the way that you’re feeling at the moment, you should know that your relationship can still be repaired. Whatever is in store for you in the future, the road ahead starts with you. This means it starts with the right attitude.
More on Get My Girl Back – The One Thing You Must Have To Win Her Back

A tactic is a plan for attaining a particular goal. In this case, the goal is getting your girl back and mending the root cause of the break up.

1.) To start, you will need to gradually ease her back into the relationship. A wound does not heal overnight. Some time will be needed to heal your broken relationship.

Rather than trying to fix things up as fast as possible, you should allow about a month to let things cool off. During this time, you should be assessing the relationship itself. You’ll need to consider things like whether you really do want her back and what changes you’ll have to make to get the relationship to work.
More on Tactics To Get Your Girl Back

1.) Try not to let your emotions and impulses pull you along when dealing with your ex. Ideally you want some sort of a well thought out plan to follow. At the very least, allow yourself to calm down and carefully take things one step at a time.

This piece of advice is easier said than done but ignoring it can really set your efforts back. The problem with your impulses is that they’re primed by deep seated fears as well as your current emotional state. These fears and emotions are often negative which can lead to actions that produce self defeating results.
More on Six More Ways To Ruin Your Chances At Winning Your Ex Back

When you’ve just broken up with your ex, your system is under a lot of emotional stress. Nature has wired our brains so that extreme stress makes us act first and think later. Unfortunately, this doesn’t work so well if you’re trying to get your ex back.

Unless you’re an expert on dealing with break ups, your impulses will take you down the wrong path. Heated emotions will cause bad judgement which leads to poor decisions. Simply being aware of the usual mistakes that people make and staying calm will start things off right.

1.) Never speak badly about your ex. Less than nice things about her can get blurted out when you’re stressed. It may make you feel better because you’re venting off some steam.
More on Warning! 6 Common Mistakes to Avoid If You Want Your Ex Back

Before a disaster strikes, a storm hits, or something that’s just plain bad happens, there are almost always warning signs. How often do you hear people say: “if only we had heeded the warning signs”. This is true of political events, storms, bridge collapses, and of relationship break ups.

A word of warning. If you are prone to paranoia, don’t read this article. You must bear in mind that the points made here address changes in behavior that were not normal for your partner in the past. Also, the more points that apply to your relationship the more likely it’s in trouble.
More on Four Break Up Signs – Hard Times Ahead For Your Relationship?