Building Trust: A Relationship Is On Quicksand Without It

We often rely on our common sense to know what makes a relationship strong but we’re often wrong.

For instance, are you aware that you don’t have to always spice things up in your relationship? Consistency is actually more important than variety.

This article will present eight tips that will fortify the bond with your partner by laying down a strong foundation of trust.

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1.) Reliability

As I mentioned earlier, being reliable is essential. This is the opposite of the idea that you need to constantly spice things up to keep your romance going. A little variety now and then can help to keep things fun, but the true foundation of a long relationship is trust.

Trust means having an unquestioning belief that your partner will be there through good times and bad. Trust like this is made through consistent reliability over time.

2.) Words And Body Language Must Agree

Always keep in mind that your words should never contradict your body language. If you say that you’re feeling happy but you have a frown on your face, he or she will instantly notice this. Your partner should not be second guessing what you really mean, because this isn’t trust. Trust can only happen when you mean what you say and the message matches your words.

3.) Words And Actions Must Agree

Also be extremely careful that your actions don’t contradict your words. In this instance, I don’t mean body language. If you say one thing but do something else, you will have lost credibility. Having no credibility will completely chip away all trust in a relationship.

4.) Your Partner Is Competent. Believe It

You must have a profound belief that your partner is a competent person. Of course everyone is better at some things than at others, but you must believe in the overall competence of your partner. If not you’re violating the trust in your relationship.

How To Regain Trust:

Trust is easily lost and extremely hard to regain. If you get it back, it will not be the same level of trust as you had at the beginning.
An apology where you accept the blame is essential. Don’t try to spread it around and don’t try to justify your actions. Not accepting the blame will weaken your apology or will turn it into something else.
Be sincere.
Regaining trust won’t happen overnight. It will require a lot of time.
You can use the principle of reciprocity to help you out. People tend to do to you what you do to them. So if you are totally trusting with your partner, he or she may start trusting you.
Remember that your partner will be far less forgiving should you violate his or her trust again.

5.) Don’t Keep Secrets From Your Partner

You should never keep secrets from your partner. Secrets tend to have a way of always being found out. Once a secret is found out, your partner will always wonder about other secrets that you may be withholding. A lot of time is needed to create trust while secrets can completely undo trust.

6.) Express Your Needs

You must make known your needs to your partner. He or she can’t be expected to guess about what your needs are. Balance is important in that extreme self centeredness is as bad as extreme selflessness. Keeping your needs to yourself doesn’t allow your partner the chance to express love through the act of giving.

7.) It’s Ok To Say No

Don’t be too concerned about having to say no. A person expressing his or her needs is a perfectly healthy thing. But there are times when saying yes isn’t appropriate. You will lose your partners respect if you are always yielding. Respect is vital in creating lasting trust in your relationship.

8.) You Mustn’t Shy Away From Hardship, Adversity, Or Crisis

There is no relationship in the world that isn’t exempt from this. When a crisis is successfully resolved, your relationship becomes stronger and experiences growth.

Developing trust can be hard to do. But a stable and lasting relationship is worth the work.

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